Analysis of a middle-class bully

Refer to: ‘How to deal with being bullied at school.’

For this post, the antagonist will be known as ‘Boy C’.

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I first met Boy C in year 7 at my new school. I could remember he started to bully me when I was given lines (punishment) for failing to give in homework for a second consecutive week. He too received the same punishment, but proceeded to harass me over this and my lack of self-worth allowed him to taunt me into submission. Afterwards, he often pretended to be my friend but also blackmailed over insignificant things that happened during school days.

As a result, my mother reported him and the arguments and confrontations stayed to a minimum from years 8 to 10. In between these years, he would often attempt to accuse me of being unfair in having him reported and successfully punished. This caused me to develop a sense of guilt, which proved pivotal to further bullying.

Unfortunately in the latter half of year 11, the blackmailing re-started and continued into sixth form. My personal health (eczema) started to deteriorate and he was reported again, finally ending his bullying campaign.

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In the next part of this analysis, the strengths and weakness of Boy C will be analysed.

Strengths

As a well-educated child, Boy C was knowledgeable in subjects covering mathematics, science and technology. Such sharp and articulate know-how was often expressed in classes and he would use this to reciprocate a sense of superiority to others.

He had adequate social skills which allowed him to defend himself in arguments or when others teased him.

Weaknesses

His weaknesses, however, caused him to develop of a sense of insecurity which he took out on others. He persistently struggled with his weight and he lacked a real interest in watching or participating in sports. This caused many to tease him of requiring a sports bra.

He was often rude and obnoxious to teachers, further worsened by his teachers’ acknowledgement of his superior technical knowledge. Resultantly, he was often lazy and unpunctual in terms of handing in work and adhering to school rules.

To worsen matters, his love of gossiping and provoking others with sly, inconsiderate comments made him severely unpopular. This resulted in him attempting to suck up to more respectable friends, whom although sympathetic to his plight, eventually rejected him.

In his love life, he had a long term girlfriend who he regularly had loud, heated arguments with during school. Their lowly social position and love of gossiping had brought them together, but they were tempestuous and struggled to learn how to deal with each other’s emotions.

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The moment of clarity

One day (Sixth Form), I walked into a study room and encountered two of my classmates from Maths. One of them expressed particular concern about the bullying behaviour of Boy C. 

He warned me sternly that if I did not report Boy C, I would struggle with emotional problems.

To the boy who warned me: If you’re reading this, I hope you are doing well in your endeavours. I will always be forever indebted to you for providing me with this moment of sobering clarity. 

Aftermath

Once I had reported Boy C for bullying in sixth form, our relationship was reduced to brief “Hi-and-bye” moments. He did continue his paranoia against me where he would accuse me of having a problem with him when I looked around a classroom during lessons with a face of anguish (systematic of my poor skills).

However, I had finally succeeded in being locked into a strong friendship group (and he regularly went home during free periods), so he had little opportunity to abuse me furthermore.

He wound up at a lower-end university and now works in a nightclub bar. My verdict of his fate? Karma is a bitch.

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