- Let’s distinguish between feeling angry and being hostile.
- What are the costs and benefits of being hostile? (Would you recommend that your friends become more angry?)
- Take a step back. (You don’t have to respond immediately.)
- What are you telling yourself that makes you so angry? (Accept that people don’t always live up to your expectations.)
- Do you have a rulebook that makes you even more angry? (Maybe drop your list of how other people “should” always behave at all times?)