Because some people want to be “nice” and “not cause trouble,” they “suffer in silence,” “turn the other cheek,” and assume nothing can be done to change their situation. The rest of us appreciate pleasant, accommodating people but whenever a nice person permits a greedy, dominant person to take advantage of him/her, the passive person is not only cheating him/herself but also reinforcing unfair, self-centered behavior in the aggressive person.
Four Steps to Building Assertiveness
1. Realize where changes are needed and believe in your rights.
2. Figure out appropriate ways of asserting yourself in each specific situation that concerns you.
3. Practice giving assertive responses.
4. Try being assertive in real life situations.